15 “BE” Days of IVF

Because it’s Christmas and our transfer day is just around the corner, I’ve decided to share with you 15 “BE” DAYS OF MY IVF JOURNEY. You know, like 25 days of Christmas? Cool right?!

Starting 12/5 through 12/19 our transfer day, I’ll be sharing 15 things to “BE” throughout this journey. I’m sure you can all agree with me that you learn a lot about yourself, your spouse and your family/friends while going through IVF. The countdown continues as I prepare my mind and heart to receive this miracle. So all I have to say now is BE on the lookout for the BE DAYS. You won’t BE disappointed! (I know, I’m getting a little carried away with the BE word) I can’t wait!

“Be” Day 1

BE UNDERSTANDING…

Understand that everyone is not going to understand your journey. Some people will never understand why we’ve gone to these “extreme” measures to bring home a baby. They may not understand why you decided to keep this journey private or why you decided to be so open. Others may not understand why you chose to implant two embryos or why you decided not to disclose the gender. Understand that you cannot control anything that happens or anything anyone says, you can only control you. Understand that people will say negative things intentionally or unintentionally. As long as you are content with your decision throughout this journey, that’s all that needs to be understood.

“Be” Day 2

BE PATIENT…

Ahhh…we all no the struggles of being patient. Know that everything is NOT going to happen as planned. There is a reason behind every season and sometimes you may have to wait. While you’re waiting for God’s promises to be fulfilled, remember he’s never late. Everything will happen in his perfecting timing. Maybe you’ll have to wait for a test result, maybe you’ll have to wait for your period to start, maybe you’ll have to wait to start your medication. Whatever the wait may be, be patient. Wait on it. It will be worth it!

“Be” Day 3

BE STILL…

Don’t try to control everything because you simply cannot. The word says to be still and know that I am God. Sometimes being still will bring about whatever is meant to be. Take your hands off it. Let your mind and your body rest. Worrying has never solved any problems. Take all of those negative thoughts, put them in a box and bury them. Things will happen as they should, be still.

“Be” Day 4

BE STRONG…

IVF is definitely not for the weak. You tap into your strength that you didn’t even know you had. It’s like mama bear comes out and you fight for the life of your embabies. You push and push and push. There are times when you just want to give up but you’ve come so far so you don’t. Take it one day at a time. Know that your mind gives up long before your body does. When you think you just can’t take another shot you can! You don’t know the magnitude of your strength until you have to be strong. Take breaks, but don’t give up. Be strong.

“Be” Day 5

BE GRATEFUL…

Although it sucks to be infertile, it sucks to have to go through all of this pain and heartbreak to get something that seems to come to everyone else so easy. We were chosen because we are strong. I am grateful that God chose me so that when his promises are filled, people will know that it was not me. Man does not have the capacity to perform such miracles. I am thrilled that he’s using me to inspire others, to encourage others, to love and support others. I put aside my selfish ways throughout this journey because I want to make a difference in someone else’s life. You never know who’s listening, who’s watching and who needs to hear your story. Be grateful.

“Be” Day 6

BE FUN…

Take a moment and do something fun throughout this journey. You will literally drive yourself crazy if you are constantly consumed by IVF. Go on a trip, have a glass of wine, go to a comedy show, just take a break for a while. Remember that there is life outside of the IVF world. Have fun, be fun.

“Be” Day 7

BE CELEBRATING…

Celebrate every moment in this journey. Give yourself credit for every single step you make. Every step taken means you’re one step closer to your destination. Although it seems like forever, everything will happen so fast. I think I celebrated with a glass of wine after every little thing. I finished my first pack of birth control, let’s toast to that! I’m scheduled for my transfer, I think I’ll drink to that! Lol. Maybe wine is not your thing, have a slice of pie. Just don’t forget to celebrate. You’re doing great!

“Be” Day 8

BE PRAYING…

Pray for guidance, pray for understanding, pray for strength, pray that his will be done. Pray when things are going great pray when they are not. Pray for healing. Pray God’s words back to him. Pray Lord you said in your word you will never leave me or forsake me, I need you right now God. Pray, Lord you said in your word you will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born. Pray, Lord you said in your word ask, and you shall receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be answered. We must be praying.

“Be” Day 9

BE IN LOVE…

I know IVF can take a toll on your relationships. Especially with your significant other. The hormones can take over sometimes and you’re lashing out on them. Your partner loves you, love them back. Although it seems like you’re doing “all the work”, they are still part of this journey with you. Helping you with your shots, encouraging you along the way, being there for you and with you. Be sure to tell them thank you and I love you.

“Be” Day 10

BE OKAY…

Be ok with not being ok sometimes. This journey is not all rainbows and sunshine. You’re going to cry, you’re going to get angry, you’re going to be envious towards other pregnant women, you’re going to feel defeated, you’re going to feel misunderstood, you’re going to feel stressed and that’s all ok. It’s ok to let yourself go there just don’t stay there. It’s ok to not be ok. So be ok with that.

“Be” Day 11

BE KNOWLEDGEABLE…

Do your research! Your protocol will not be the same as the next persons. What worked for them may not work for you or maybe it will. Every doctor is different. Be asking questions and knowing what’s going on throughout your cycle. Know what medicines you’re taking and why. Know what your test results are and what they mean. Google and you guys have been my best friends! That’s the great thing about this community. Be in the know.

“Be” Day 12

BE PROUD…

Be proud of everything you do In this journey, every risk you take. I will tell anyone who will listen that I am an IVF warrior. I am not ashamed of my story because it has molded and shaped me into the woman I am today. Walk into that clinic with your head held high. Stand proud and know that you’re not standing alone. Be proud of everything you’ve accomplished throughout this journey, baby or no baby.

“Be” Day 13

BE FORGIVING…

Forgive your friends/family for their insensitive comments. Forgive your body for failing you. Forgive your spouse for things they do or do not say. Forgive those who say IVF is “playing God”. Forgive you for being so hard on yourself. Make peace with the world as you prepare for your miracle.

“Be” Day 14


BE POSITIVE…

For every negative thought replace it with a positive one. Don’t worry about what could go wrong, think about how it could all go right. It all starts in your mind. I’m not saying to be in denial or not to face the facts but our faith allows us to be able to face the facts. Don’t let the the facts keep you from understanding that God is much bigger than the facts! Look infertility right in the face and say, with God all things are possible! I will get pregnant, I will stay pregnant and I will bring home a baby!

“Be” Day 15


BE PREGNANT…

Today I am pregnant. And for the next 9 days until beta, I am pregnant. That’s all I know. I’m not worried about the past miscarriages, I’m not worried about the symptoms I do or don’t have, I’m not worried about any bleeding I may or may not get. All I know is that I am pregnant! Praying that this little one agrees with me and plans to stick around for the next 9 months.

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