5 things I learned about Ectopic Pregnancies after having one

Ok so let’s talk facts first.

What is an ectopic pregnancy??

It is a pregnancy that implants outside of the uterus. In my case, the fallopian tubes.

For some odd reason my children were either lazy or had a very short attention span on the way to the uterus and never quite made it. I was fortunate enough to experience this twice! Both tubes! I felt better about this after my doctor explained to me that tubes serve no purpose. They are just so that the sperm travels through them to fertilize the egg, then the fertilized egg makes its way back to the uterus. Other than that you don’t need them. (Good sales pitch I know!) So here’s what I experienced after having to experience this twice in my life. I like to think of myself has an expert.  Ha!

You can feel absolutely no pain at the beginning

This is true in most cases. Some women have no idea that they’re even pregnant until their tubes rupture. My first ectopic my tube did not rupture but once the baby implants in the tube, there is no way to move him to the uterus. So with that being said, I was about 7 weeks pregnant and my child had just made a home in my tube and was growing there. I was told that if they could save the tube they would, but it was so damaged, it was better to just remove it. Plus, the chances of having another one in the same tube would increase. Any who, I had no pain. You’d think if my child was dancing around in my fallopian tube I’d of felt it. Nope! I still felt pregnant and was hoping for a miracle.

There can be little to no bleeding

One day I had some very light bleeding and immediately knew I was miscarrying. Although “GOOGLE” says there can be some light bleeding in the early stages of pregnancy, it still freaked me out. The next day I had no bleeding. So at this point I’m like WTH? Maybe this is that breakthrough blood when the fetus is implanting in the uterus. Thanks Google. So I never had any period like bleeding spells. Even my 2nd ectopic, I never really started bleeding until I had the methotrexate injection.

It can be missed on a sonogram

I found out I was pregnant for the 4th time at 5 weeks. By the time I was 6 weeks, I was having some light bleeding. It was 4am and I’d been down this road so much at this point, I just checked myself into the emergency room. I explained to the doctor that this was my 4th miscarriage and possibly my 2nd ectopic. They of course drew blood to checked my HCG levels and the sonographer checked for a possible ectopic. There was nothing in the uterus and they saw nothing in the tube. A few days later I followed up with my OBGYN and they felt there was no need for another sonogram, based on the ER’s report, until they drew blood to check my HCG levels again, to see if they had doubled. After they got my blood test back, they did another sonogram and found a “mass” in my tube. This is when my doctor decided to give me the methotrexate injection. My doctor explained to me that since the fetus is so small during the early stages of pregnancy, they are hard to detect on sonogram.

Your HCG levels can continue rising

My HCG results came from the hospital at around 3000, then jumped up to about 6k by the time I had gotten to my obgyn. So obviously I was still pregnant! My first ectopic my HCG levels rose from 9k to 12k. The numbers were still rising, I was still hopeful, praying for a miracle.

Your tube can rupture at anytime

After my doctor gave me the injection to dissolve the pregnancy, I continued on like a normal miscarriage. I had gone about a week and was scheduled to revisit my doctor to check the progress. Tuesday, August 30th, I woke up in the middle of the night for my usual bathroom break. As I was getting back in bed, I had stomach pains like you wouldn’t believe! I could barely stand up. I really felt like I was going in labor if I knew what labor felt like. Did that make sense? *shrugs* I tried to assume this was just my body’s way of (as horrible as it sounds) passing the remains of the baby. I just couldn’t tolerate the pain so woke my husband up to take me to the hospital. Nurse: “On the scale of 1-10 how is your pain?” Me: 11!! Of course I was admitted and the doctor told me my tube had ruptured, I had blood all in my chest and needed to have emergency surgery AGAIN! So although we were treating the ectopic, my tube still managed to rupture.

This is one experience I wish no woman had to experience. Unfortunately this is one we cannot prevent so whatever you do, DO NOT IGNORE THE SIGNS. I knew something was not right about these so called miscarriages. If you know something is not right, seek help immediately. This a very life threatening experience. Have you ever experienced an ectopic pregnancy? What where some of your signs or symptoms?


  1. Taylor

    July 20, 2017 at 9:24 am

    You are amazing & so strong for making it through your ectopic pregnancy. When my mother was pregnant with me, she had severe pain and was misdiagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy. She received a second opinion and it turned out that I was okay! I think about that all the time.

    1. Dee Ervin

      July 20, 2017 at 5:57 pm

      I never would have thought in a million years I’d have not one but two ectopic pregnancies. I’m sure your mother was terrified!

  2. madiha

    July 20, 2017 at 9:43 am

    This has been a worry of mine after taking the morning after pill. thank you for clearing things up!

    1. Dee Ervin

      July 20, 2017 at 5:55 pm

      Thank you for reading. Glad I was able to help.

  3. Carissa Jane Tenecio

    July 20, 2017 at 9:53 am

    you are very strong! thanks for sharing your story for awareness and inspiration

    1. Dee Ervin

      July 20, 2017 at 5:54 pm

      Thank you for reading.

  4. Rosalie

    July 20, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    Thank you SO much for sharing your experience. The same thing happened to me, and it honestly took me more than a year to recover both physically and emotionally. The physical after effects as well as the paranoia about rupturing my tube was unbearable for so long. Stay strong Dee xx

    1. Dee Ervin

      July 20, 2017 at 5:54 pm

      Omg thank you for sharing. I hate that anyone has to experience this. What really sucks about it is there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop it from happening.

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