My IVF Journey: The Art of Patience


After 5 miscarriages, both tubes removed, IVF is our only option. In case you missed how we got here, read this post. Now to me, this sounded like a no brainer, simply because I do not have fallopian tubes that you need (obviously) to get pregnant naturally. So I thought you’d just collect the egg, fertilize it, place it back in the uterus and bam! There’s your baby. But this has definitely not been the case!

I had my first IVF consultation March 28th. At this appointment, I was quoted 21k-23k for the procedure considering my crappy insurance didn’t pay for anything.

Yes, you read that correctly…21,000-23,000


I know what you’re thinking, that’s one expensive maybe baby! Exactly, what I thought. But a mama’s gotta do what a mama’s gotta do. So then they tell me the actual IVF procedure is about a three month process. No big deal right? I had a Vegas trip planned in May so I figured I’d start the procedure by the end of May, by the end of July I’d be pregnant and that’s how the story ends.

Oh no my friends I was in for a rude awakening.

First off, I love Dr. Rodriguez at Texas IVF. He never has this wam bam here’s your baby thank you ma’am kind of attitude. He’s very thorough, wants to make sure that all T’s are crossed and all I’s are dotted before we get this show on the road. My kind of guy.

So of course they had to do some looking around in uterus to make sure the baby had a nice place to implant.

So all in one week, I had to have a hysterosalpingogram, aka HSG, to be sure my tubes had been completely removed, and a saline sonogram. Which, I had an HSG before when I still had tubes and let me tell you, it was EXTREMELY painful! When they told me I had to do another one, I was terrified. I never thought I’d experience anything like that ever again!

My initial thought was…



Turns out, it wasn’t painful at all! I’m guessing because it revealed I had a partial removal that I was unaware of.

Doc says the possibilities of another ectopic is highly unlikely, but possible. We chose not to have them completely removed because it’s been said that removing them completely, could cut off the blood supply to the ovaries. Plus I was not willing to sit through another procedure like that. Or should I say sleep through?

After that, when I had the saline sonogram, it revealed there were polyps in the uterus.

Excuse me?

Yes, polyps.

Polyps are usually noncancerous growth attached to the inner walls of the uterus, which could cause implantation issues. Thanks Google. So anything that could potentially keep the embryo from implanting, had to go bye bye. Surgery for the removal was scheduled June 15th. Everything went great! According to Dr. Rod, there weren’t as many polyps as they thought. So now that that’s done, now what?

Oh did I mention I am VERY impatient.

Then he says I have to wait three months to do the transfer to allow the uterus to heal.

My response was…

Three more freaking months? Are you kidding me? Three more months feels more like three years to a person like me.

But he’s the expert so I had no choice. Good news is I can do the retrieval and be healed up and ready to go in time for the transfer.

I started my first pack of birth control pills in July. I know, doesn’t make any sense that I’m taking birth control if I’m trying to get pregnant. Believe me, there is a method behind the madness.

So then I have my follow up appointment to take a look at how my uterus is progressing. Looks fantastic by the way. Then they popped the big question…

Are you guys ready to start IVF?

My response was…

This is it!


It’s finally here!


I get to inject myself with hormones and daily visits to the doctor’s office! Whoo hoo!


Not to mention, I’ll be a nut case, an emotional wreck and broke.


I couldn’t wait!




There was one small problem…


My husband was going to be traveling on a business trip the week we needed his fertilizer to fertilize the eggs. So guess what that meant for me…yep

More waiting!!

My husband also had a nice little get away planned for us at the end of August to prepare for this journey. Sweet huh?

Oh I did mention that I was VERY impatient right?


This journey has taught me a lot of lessons thus far, but the most important of them all is to be patient and enjoy the ride. I had it all figured out. I was going to start IVF by June, be pregnant by August and be holding my little one by April 2018.

But see God had another plan. He is definitely going to make sure everything is done in his perfect timing. I haven’t mastered the art of patience yet, but I’m still working on it. I truly believe everything happens for a reason so instead of trying to plan it all out, I’m just going to walk by faith and not by sight. And I’m going to enjoy this time with my husband as much as I can before the meds turn me into a monster! And the baby gets here.

I have faith that it will all workout. I just need to be still and know that he is God.

September will be here before we know it.

Stay tuned for My IVF Journey Pt. 2

Pertaining to IVF, or not, what are some things you do to remain patient?


  1. tachira wiltshire

    August 15, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    Patience is not a virtue I possess. That’s why I started meditating. Some days it works others not so much. AS you said We have to trust in God’s timing and keep the faith.

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 7:08 pm

      I’ll have to try meditating some day. My husband has mentioned it to me in the past. Definitely going to give it a try. Thank you for reading and sharing.

  2. Paulette

    August 15, 2017 at 7:37 pm

    I truly hope and pray you get your bundle of joy. Trust in God and be patient. Believe it or not I struggled getting pregnant the second time around, I thought I could plan it. But I learned that nothing in life is in OUR time but His time. Just don’t give up and have faith.

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:19 pm

      Thank you for you kind words and reading. Oh wow, people need to know about secondary infertility because it does exist. And you’re so right it’s all in his perfect timing.

  3. Ell

    August 15, 2017 at 8:39 pm

    Oh wow! You had quite the experience. Patience is key for me too but I find that it can be very hard!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:17 pm

      Yes very lol. Thanks for reading.

  4. Lauren

    August 15, 2017 at 8:48 pm

    I was not gifted with the patience stick either. I suggest exercising to release some stress/anxiety/ etc!!! Best of luck to you!!!!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:16 pm

      Thanks for reading. I use to work out but super husband said the type of workout I did was too intense to be trying to bring a baby in the world. I tried Yoga too slow for me. But I would like to get back to some physical activity. Good idea.

  5. Amanda

    August 15, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing!! I know it is a sensitive topic but your humour throughout it was just hilarious 🙂 I actually adopted my kids which involves A LOT of waiting…years, so I can totally relate. To pass the time, I did things that sort of made me feel like I was doing something…like collected kid things, reading parenting books, that sort of thing. If it is any encouragement, once you are done this will all be a distant memory, so hang in there 🙂

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:14 pm

      Thank for kind words and reading. That’s a great idea, get some parenting books. My way of coping, finding humor in it lol. Thanks again.

  6. Shanshan

    August 15, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    I feel your pain, especially the medical bill part. Most insurance doesn’t cover IVF costs sadly… I spent long hours calling billing department and trying to get a lower payment settlement. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t. But the whole process does need a lot of patience…

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:11 pm

      Lord yes! Thank you for reading.

  7. latoya

    August 15, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story and spreading awareness. I admire your courage and love your positivity. Prayers and blessings to you.

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 15, 2017 at 9:10 pm

      Thank you for your kind words & reading

  8. Sosi's Mom

    August 15, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    It’s very brave to share your experiences. It is fascinating how far science has come in the last few years!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:31 am

      Thank you for reading. Yes science has really evolved.

  9. Crystal Simmons

    August 15, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    Oh good luck!! I’m rooting for you. I would not have the patience. I can tell already that you will be an amazing mom!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:35 am

      Thank you for your kind words and reading.

  10. Jillian

    August 15, 2017 at 10:10 pm

    I am so sorry for your losses and will keep you in my prayer as you continue to go through this journey sweet friend. xoxo

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:36 am

      Thank you for your prayers and reading.

  11. Jasmin Atwood

    August 15, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Okay, I LOVED this article. I can’t pretend to know your struggle or the things you’re going through because I can’t. But I loved the way this was written, and I even laughed out loud a couple times! You’re such a strong mama; you’ll be holding that sweet babe in no time. Sending positive vibes your way💜

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:39 am

      Thank you for reading. I try to find humor in it all. Thank you for your kind words.

  12. Charnel Graham

    August 15, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    I’m praying for you and hoping good things for you on your journey

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:42 am

      Thank for your prayers and for reading.

  13. Marissa

    August 15, 2017 at 10:22 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story, as a young woman these stories are so important by spreading awareness. Prayers and so many blessing your way in your journey.

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:43 am

      Thank you for reading and your prayers.

  14. Taylor Fiske

    August 15, 2017 at 10:29 pm

    i love you use of GIFs! gotta bring a little light into any situation we find ourselves in! best of luck!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:44 am

      Yes, love using GIFs to express how I feel. Thank you for reading.

  15. Sydney

    August 15, 2017 at 10:49 pm

    What an incredible story thus far! I know your child will be incredibly loved and exactly the gift your family needs because of the journey you’ve been on. Thank you so much for sharing these intimate stories. I will keep you in my thoughts and look forward to hearing more!

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:45 am

      Thank you so much for your kind words and reading.

  16. Brittany Diego

    August 16, 2017 at 2:33 am

    Wow thank you for sharing your personal story with us !! I enjoyed reading.

    1. Dee Ervin

      August 16, 2017 at 8:45 am

      Thank you for reading

  17. Erica

    August 16, 2017 at 8:27 am

    This encouraged me so much to begin considering this IVF/Surrogacy journey for myself (I had a hysterectomy after my Rainbow Baby). Your story needs to be shared everywhere. God is shining his light through you and this work you are doing. I’m going to add you to my prayer list of TTC moms. You have this and God is going to give you the patience and strength to make it through this journey! Blessings to you!

    1. Dee Ervin

      September 4, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and reading. Most times, God wants to bless other through us and I pray everyday that someone is inspired by my story. I pray that you find confirmation in your consideration of a new journey and may God be with you!

Leave a Reply